Friday, October 07, 2016

10 Things I’d Like to See Maya DiMeo Take On

So we’ve now got three weeks of ABC’s Speechless to judge from, and I’m still loving it pretty hard. It’s fulfilling my hopes that it would be both in-jokingly true to the experience of raising kids with special needs and flat-out funny by anyone’s sitcom standards. I’m happy that J.J. is allowed to be an actual teenager, with teenage-boy interests and concerns, and that his mom sometimes makes mistakes that are all too recognizable to me.

There are some roads the show has chosen not to go down — by making a big point of the fact that J.J. is NOT in special ed, oh no no no, and having the principal and staff be hyper-cooperative rather than actively obstructionist. This means I will not get my dream of watching Mama Bear Maya take apart an IEP team (she could still be an advocate for a friend at an IEP meeting, right? right?) or fight an administration that doesn’t want any part of inclusion or her kid at all. That might not be so funny, I get it. I’ve been there, and it’s not funny at all. But I bet there are parents who were wishing they could jot down some script-written zingers for future use.

Fortunately, there are plenty of high-pressure special-needs-related situations still available for Maya to be righteously indignant at, and I look forward to watching her scorch some earth dealing with the following:
  1. An insurance company denying a claim.
  2. A doctor’s office keeping her and J.J. waiting for a couple of hours.
  3. A doctor acting like a know-it-all.
  4. Extended family members who snipe and second-guess.
  5. Gatekeepers who stand between her and equipment J.J. needs.
  6. Speech therapists who have opinions about J.J.’s communication options.
  7. A random visit from Child Protective Services.
  8. Employers who refuse to give J.J. a summer job.
  9. Online commenters.
  10. Crushing doubt and guilt that maybe every decision she’s ever made for her son has been wrong, driving her to hide in her room weeping while her family tiptoes lightly around.
Wait, maybe #10’s not that funny? I was hoping Speechless could find a way to make me laugh about it. What would you add to this list?

2 comments:

Ender-Chan said...

-Advice that's about as reputable as clickbait written by some quack scammer
-A sense of JJ's temperament, thought processes, alignment, political opinions, and basic motivations
-JJ feeling useless because he feels he is imposing unnecessary stress on others.
-People walking on eggshells around Maya out of fear of being offensive

Jenn Soehnlin said...

Haha, this is an awesome list! I would say you could totally add an IEP meeting to the list though. Just because he's not in special ed classes doesn't mean he doesn't need accommodations (such as his communication device and his aide), which would be in an IEP.